tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6047048042562451496.post8439122131419879082..comments2024-01-24T22:23:32.142-05:00Comments on The Bee's Knees: New InitiativeMaehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16798075377082932012noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6047048042562451496.post-3453005860721417612015-05-09T10:05:44.699-04:002015-05-09T10:05:44.699-04:00Hey Adam. Heard the story on Love and Radio. I l...Hey Adam. Heard the story on Love and Radio. I lost my best girl after a year battle with a genetic illness I'd never even heard of. She got sick around our 3rd wedding anniversary. She died March 12th, 2009.<br /><br />I could relate to what you said and it meant a lot to me. I was as prepared for losing Jenn as much as anyone can be, and yet, nothing prepares you for how you will feel or deal with it. Not really wanting to live in my case, yet knowing that she wanted me to keep going and be happy when she was gone. It still hurts of course, 6 years later, but I am at peace with it.<br /><br />She told me: "Tell me you won't be alone when I'm gone." <br />"OK". <br />"Now say the words: tell me I won't be alone when you're gone." <br />"Now look me in the eye and say it."<br /><br />Part of you moves on, part of you stays in that space. I've had lots of beautiful girlfriends since then, but there will never be anyone else like her, ever again.<br /><br />I know you know what I mean. Just wanted to share. Thanks!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15043863183553832157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6047048042562451496.post-27091922727627571392013-04-30T14:29:37.837-04:002013-04-30T14:29:37.837-04:00Grief is such an unknown to me and it always seems...Grief is such an unknown to me and it always seems to arrive unexpectedly. I never know it's coming, how long it will stay and what will help me through it. Each time it hits me it seems a bit different than the time before. I always try to take away something positive from each experience. This blog is such a good thing. Today it helped me a lot. Thank you for sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6047048042562451496.post-2746762376312260302012-07-10T12:07:04.183-04:002012-07-10T12:07:04.183-04:00Adam~ I came across your link because of a story t...Adam~ I came across your link because of a story that was shared on a board I am part of...I wanted to know where you are at today because it intrigued me...in an effort to spare you a lot of details, I have a gene mutation (BRCA2) that puts me at a high risk of developing ovarian, breast, and other various cancers. I have had as many prophylactic surgeries as my doctors can offer and, as a result of the struggles I face, have become highly active in communities where my friends are dealing with cancer. This year, things had to change - I had to find a way not to be overwhelmed by my friends dying, overwhelmed by my friends who are alive but are fighting with everything they have, and I needed to find where I fit in with it all...my own issues about what it meant as a 29 year old to have my breasts removed, at 34 to have a hysterectomy...I identified with your description of giving grief space...I was in a mode of "get it done" and then in a mode of not acknowledging my emotions were real because they pale in comparison to what my beloved friends face...I wonder if I was scared of acknowledging and stopping to breathe and give myself an opportunity to feel...I made a visit to a counselor...who instructed me to do just that - breathe, give myself permission to walk through the emotions there, acknowledge their presence, and continue on...grief is a funny thing - and I don't know if we are truly prepared for what it looks like because we all want to be so happy and so "on top" of everything...my journey has led me to recognizing I need to love and accept myself, flaws and all...and find who I am and what makes me tick...I think facing my grief and finding I survived facing those "unknowns" has aided me in digging deeper...slbartohttp://slbarto.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com