Goals

As I've mentioned before, Meghan was an avid list-maker. When she first finished treatments in 2009, Meghan made a list of goals that she hoped to achieve throughout her life. Some were small, some were big, but all were attainable. Meghan was working her way through this list when she was re-diagnosed in late January 2010...she had no intention of stopping, and added more to the list.

After Meghan passed away in April 2010, I decided I wanted to finish her list. Since then, I've been incorporating her goals into my life. As of June 2012, I have completed ten goals. In some cases, I've gone on to create a new goal -- such as running a marathon (October 2011) after completing a half-marathon (July 2011). In other cases, Meghan's goals are things I've already done, such as visiting a certain number of countries. For those goals, I'm not counting my past experience, but moving forward from where Meghan was in her progress.

See the blog entries below for a detailed list of the Meghan's goals. Updates/progress are noted in bold.

So.... here we go- (Thursday, September 10, 2009)
Life Goals...
1) To hold a PhD, I'm not too picky on what it is going to be in. The way I am going though, I think it's bound to be nursing.(Adam's progress: Graduated with a BA in Linguistics, May 2012! Applying to grad programs for Fall 2013)
2) To learn another language. I've got a head start on Korean and French, I just need to get motivated enough to do it.
3) To master at least one of the following musical instruments - cornet, cello, piano, or guitar.
4) To live in at least 5 different countries - So far I've only got Canada and Korea. I'm assuming that I will have United States in the near future (preferably San Fran, DC, Portland and Maine). I'm thinking somewhere in Europe and in South America?(Adam's progress: #1: India, Sept-Dec 2010)
5) To run a half marathon. I've a lot of training to do though, seeing as the 5km I ran today was far from easy. (Completed by Adam July 15, 2011 in Tobermory, Canada)
6) Spend at least 100 hours volunteering. (Note*** So far I'm up to 40h :)) (Adam's progress: finished Oct. 1, 2 010)
7) Master the following- sewing, knitting & crocheting (Note*** on my way with knitting/sewing, kinda sorta)
8) Become part owner of a Bed & Breakfast (with Adam)
9) Travel to 30 countries. I'm at 7 now. (Adam's progress: 11 countries as of June 2012)
10) Read at least 12 books a year until I die (Textbooks NOT included). Adam's progress, updated & linked on the resources page.
11) Complete 'The Weekend to End Breast Cancer' 60km walk in Toronto. Sept 11-12.
12) Own a little cottage by a lake.


New Goals (February 2010)
1) Take the train across Canada (Completed  by Adam, August 10, 2010)
2) Go to an NHL game (don't really care where, I just want to go) (Completed by Meghan, March 6, 2010 in Ottawa)
3) Make Peter take me (and friends) to a Blue Jays game... I don't really have any interest in baseball, but I think it would be fun. (Completed by Adam, August 11, 2010)
4) Go to the Symphony. (Completed by Meghan, February 20, 2010 in Toronto)
5) Get married (hahaha, um... no pressure Adam)  (Completed March 28, 2010 in Petrolia)
6) Go to Canada's Wonderland with my friends/family
7) Take a road trip back to Maine
8) Go snowshoeing (Completed by Adam, February 2011)
9) Go ice-skating on the Rideau Canal
10) Get my darn tooth fixed
11) Get some darn shiny nice new glasses
12) I've always wanted to go to Ireland with my father... it's been a dream of mine since I was just a little girl. My father has been, and he loved it. I would love to share this with him while I still can. I don't think I'm ready to let go of this dream yet.
13) See the northern lights.
14) Travel to India to volunteer with children. (Completed by Adam, September-December 2010)

53 comments:

Sara Carroll said...

I absolutely LOVE that you are completing her goals. While watching your story on godvine tonight, I couldn't help but cry. In fact I still am. To have a love like that, that didn't die with her, that lives on is honestly just amazing! Just don't give up, they may be hard to complete but just knowing that you did this for her is remarkable! God Bless

Unknown said...

Adam, amazing and inspiring. Cancer touches the lives of just about everyone. I lost my father and older brother and think your passion to complete her list is one of the most positives ways I have ever seen anyone honor a loved one. Best of luck to your adventure and may God lighten the pain with each line you cross off. thank you for sharing your story. therese

Tammy Carlile said...

I just saw your Story on GodVine - it is an Inspiration. I Believe that Rather you Choose to Complete Every One of these Goals or Not; You and Meghan have Touched Many Lives. I say that because I read all of the GOALS and she did set some Goals didn't she! I believe that she is with you and will stay with you forever and that she will let you know which GOALS to Complete and Which Goals that You can SLACK OFF ON. You are a True Inspiration and I Pray that you Finish Each and Every Goal that You Choose to Complete and that You Live Your Life to the FULLEST; the way we All Should! Thank You for Sharing Yours and Meghan's Story with the World to See! May GOD Bless You and Keep You Safe in All You Do In Life.

Anonymous said...

U made me cry god bless u this is true love i`m from Egypt and ur story reach me this mean that ur now teaching the whole world ur story in love and loyal.

Merverte said...

I love what you are doing for her and how much you're showing her your love after she's gone. Keeping her alive inside you. Wish you all the best with the rest of the goals.

Anonymous said...

Hi :)
Greetings from Egypt
I love your story
& I feel sorry for Meghan
I know how if feels like to miss someone you love
It's great that you try to make her dreams come true, but you should make your dreams true as well..
If I were you, I'd do my best to help human kind to get rid of Cancer..

you may have a great dreams as well
you should chase them & I'm sure Meghan will be proud for you :)

Good luck friend :) you inspired me

Adam Warner said...

Thank you all so much for reading! your support motivates me to keep working.

Mohamed Aladdin said...
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Mohamed Aladdin said...

respect from EGYPT (Y)=]

ayoya said...

I have no idea what should i say, but i really loved that, wish you achieve all your goals and keep loving her in your way,
Egypt :D

Anonymous said...

Hi Adam ... im talking from Syria
We all feel sorry for Meghan & We all support you & love your story ... you inspired us !
Good luck & We wish you all the best :)

Anonymous said...

Hey adam, I think lots of Egytians were inspired after reading such a story , Your story made me think deeply about my life and the things that i want to have in my life. As i hope you achieve these goals one day I hope you prepare your own list and tell us that you will begin your own journey as well . I think all of us wish to have their own dreams come true one day . God bless you and keep moving we all support you , I think that you need to put Egypt in your list now as your story is getting famous. If you will let me know :) Hope we can see this amazing story on tv someday to inspire people even more with your loyalty . As i believe that you are a great example of real love .

Thank you,
Roo potter

Anonymous said...

Hey adam, I think lots of Egytians were inspired after reading such a story , Your story made me think deeply about my life and the things that i want to have in my life. As i hope you achieve these goals one day I hope you prepare your own list and tell us that you will begin your own journey as well . I think all of us wish to have their own dreams come true one day . God bless you and keep moving we all support you , I think that you need to put Egypt in your list now as your story is getting famous. If you will let me know :) Hope we can see this amazing story on tv someday to inspire people even more with your loyalty . As i believe that you are a great example of real love .

Thank you,
Roo potter

Anonymous said...

Hey adam, I think lots of Egytians were inspired after reading such a story , Your story made me think deeply about my life and the things that i want to have in my life. As i hope you achieve these goals one day I hope you prepare your own list and tell us that you will begin your own journey as well . I think all of us wish to have their own dreams come true one day . God bless you and keep moving we all support you , I think that you need to put Egypt in your list now as your story is getting famous. If you will let me know :) Hope we can see this amazing story on tv someday to inspire people even more with your loyalty . As i believe that you are a great example of real love .

Thank you,
Roo potter

Anonymous said...

This is absolutely by far one of the things I can't put words into it !!!

Major RESPECT from Egypt ...

Mina Atef said...

Keep Going And keep Strong Adam Keep Strong Loving Her And Keep Going In Goals You are such a good person i want to know personally .
LOVE Are loyal , lover , blessing from god and you have touched my heart and touched whole world hearts.
Just keep going to complete all goals with love .
oh man i want to say all good words to you but OMG you make me cry.
God with you and bless you adam
Greeting from Egypt <3

Anonymous said...

Respect and love from Egypt :)
you are the pure meaning of True love:),Megan is in a better place watching you and is very proud of you :)
Heba from Egypt

koko channel said...

In fact that is the real love we are searching about .. <3
tota ,Egypt

Hafez Analyzes said...

i am willing to Host you at my place in Cairo, Egypt, to help you finish the list, and i can help you in volunteering for alot of things as well, contact me if you wish on ahmedhafez86 @ Gmail . com

Sherif Magdi said...

God bless you Adam...

Keep going...

mohammed abd el hady said...

good luck, you are doing great things
respect from Egypt

Anonymous said...

Good luck Adam...May you always have the power of Meghan's love with you for ever.

Anonymous said...

thats making me cry nd am a guy

Anonymous said...

Rest in peace Meghan you have such a special husband to meet again in heaven:)
God bless you Adam , try to write your story to be presented in a movie it will be amazing and inspiring romance movie
Greeting from Egypt :)
Heba

Saroja said...

Truly Inspiring! Its amazing this kinda love still exists. More strength to you in fulfilling all the goals of your love.

Anonymous said...

RIP Meghan,God bless you Adam..
All Love and Respect from Egypt :)

Layla A.Zaidi said...

So touching ! I'm crying :(
We are so sorry for you Adam
All respect from Saudi Arabia
Layla

انسان اسمه مروة said...

oh my god wooooooooooooooooow so touching
so sorry for you adam
egypt
marwa

Anonymous said...

Such an inspiring story.. Rip Megan and we feel ur pain Adam! You have put a lot of faith in all the girls around the world, that true love does exist! Ur story is travelling all around the world and hopefully u will too!
Respect From the UAE (united arab emirates) Abu Dhabi..
Hopefully u will come visit us here..

Anonymous said...

En fait, c'est le vrai amour que nous cherchons ..Continued to achieve your dreams..
By Asrinet ^__^

mohamed tarek said...

WoOoOoOoOoOw .... That's The Love <3

Heba Helmy said...

I wish you all the best Adam for such a great love and faithful and. She must be proud of you watching you achieving her goals.
Keep it up
All the respect and may her soul rest in peace God willing.
Heba

H.Mancarious & Family said...

Dear Adam , I m sure that Meghan was a wonderful person and your relation won't be end by her death but this will be an example to true lovers all over the globe till the end of times , may god bless u and give u peace ,we all pray for Meghan , plz accept our salutes .

Rose Rozita said...
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Rose Rozita said...

keep going Adam
live for her goals ... Meghan is now in our hearts and she will never pass away I send you my respect from Egypt .... you are a realy man

Anonymous said...

in one point i stopped dreaming.. this story makes me stronger
i think Meghan wants u to be happy , if u couldn't achieve her goals just be happy for her ♥
@colorfulia

ziad ammar said...

Dude you seem to have grabbed the hearts of us - Egyptians! But that's just us :-) any way if u wanna have a place to stay at in Egypt, consider me as a brother and just pack your bags and come over :-)

Gied Saleh said...

keep going Adam.
Big support from Iraq

Gheed

haboba said...

I can't stop crying and mix imotions full off my heart
many respect from Yemen ...
(sorry for weak language )

Anonymous said...

:')
Amazzzziing and inspiring!
I'm sure she would be so proud of you! And also make your dreams came true n your wishes!!! That's what she would want you to do.. :)

Much respect from Yemen <3

Laura said...

I just read your story. My heart, as all of us whom have met and loved a soulmate, aches for your loss. I know our God promises eternal life in heaven, and that we will again see those we shared lives with on this earth. Keep still and listen for signs from your love, there will be signs! Much love,
Laura from Baltimore

sueyr said...

Hey Adam,

I hope that you are still doing well in completing the goals. Such a beautiful love that you had for her. You are wonderful and an inspiration.

Matt Kuckkahn said...

She is still alive in you, she walks with you through all of this, she has never left you. If you look into your heart, when it is open, you feel this.

I want to share with you a story, by Thich Nhat Hanh, a Buddhist monk who lost his mom:

-Finding a Lost Loved One-

The same thing happens when we lost any of our beloved ones. When conditions are not right to support life, they withdraw. When I lost my mother I suffered a lot. When we are only seven or eight years old it is difficult to think that one day we will lose our mother. Eventually we grow up and we all lose our mothers, but if you know how to practice, when the time comes for the separation you will not suffer too much. You will very quickly realize that your mother is always alive within you.

The day my mother died, I wrote in my journal, "A serious misfortune of my life has arrived." I suffered for more than one year after the passing away of my mother. But one night, in the highlands of Vietnam, I was sleeping in the hut in my hermitage. I dreamed of my mother. I saw myself sitting with her, and we were having a wonderful talk. She looked young and beautiful, her hair flowing down. It was so pleasant to sit there and talk to her as if she had never died. When I woke up it was about two in the morning, and I felt very strongly that I had never lost my mother. The impression that my mother was still with me was very clear. I understood then that the idea of having lost my mother was just an idea. It was obvious in that moment that my mother is always alive in me.

I opened the door and went outside. The entire hillside was bathed in moonlight. It was a hill covered with tea plants, and my hut was set behind the temple halfway up. Walking slowly in the moonlight through the rows of tea plants, I noticed my mother was still with me. She was the moonlight caressing me as she had done so often, very tenderly, very sweet... wonderful! Each time my feet touched the earth I knew my mother was there with me. I knew this body was not mine along but a living continuation of my mother and father and my grandparents and great-grandparents. Of all my ancestors. These feet that I saw as "my" feet were actually "our" feet. Together my mother and I were leaving footprints in the damp soil.

From that moment on the idea that I had lost my mother no longer existed. All I had to do was look at the palm of my hand, feel the breeze on my face or the earth under my feet to remember that my mother is always with me, available at any time.

When you lost a loved one, you suffer. but if you know how to look deeply, you have a chance to realize that his or her nature is truly the nature of no birth, no death. There is manifestation and there is the cessation of manifestation in order to have another manifestation. You have to be very keen and very alert in order to recognize the new manifestation of just one person. But with practice and with effort you can do it.

So, taking the hand of someone who knows the practice, together do walking meditation. Pay attention to all the leaves, the flowers, the birds and the dewdrops. If you can stop and look deeply, you will be able to recognize your beloved one manifesting again and again in different forms. You will again embrace the joy of life.

Venom said...

This is Ninad from India

I RESPECT YOUR LOVE <3

Love and Light .

I can feel you and your heart too

god bless you <3 booom shankar

Anonymous said...

Wow. Just wow.

ronald reeves said...

Amam,thank you for your inspiration, love and dedication to the memory of Meghan .I have friend who just lost her husband and ten year old son tragically .I can see she needs new hope and inspiration in her life. I was lost for words to say to my friend Jess,and because of you I now can help my friend. so I will pass your story on to her . Ron R. Thank you

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Mirhan said...

you are the only man who stays pure and true
May God bless you Adam
from Mirhan with love

Muhammed Refaat said...

you are such a great one

samar seleem said...

you made me cry, may Allah please both of you

It is hard to find someone like you again Adam

aml said...

so touching gi

Yours Truly...Ms. Erlyn said...

Amazing love

Michelle Hidalgo said...

Adam I came across Meghan and your story on Facebook. Wow what a moving story. I will be 50 in 4 weeks and up to now life has been hard. Meghan and your story was what I needed to move forward. I love Meghan's list. I love lists myself. I know you want to finish Meghan's list but create one for yourself too. May God bless you.

Michelle Hidalgo

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