Monday, October 8, 2012

Thanksgiving


Happy Thanksgiving, Canada!

Recently, I've gotten some new readers from all over the world. I can't thank all of you enough in Egypt and the Middle East for the huge outpouring of support.  Egypt is DEFINITELY on the travel list. I’m curious: where did you hear about our story?  Make sure you like the facebook page if you haven't already and sign up for the email subscription.

Which brings me to my next point: I’m overdue on providing on an update on my plans. I'm still working towards my education goal, but it's going to take years to complete. I'm really excited (having just taken the GRE,) to start applying to graduate programs and get the ball rolling. Meghan always loved school. She and her mom often told me, how, in high school, Meghan would get home from class in the afternoon and park herself at the dining room table until bedtime. Doing endless hours of homework in order to do well in high school and get in to a good university of her choice.   

I wish I had a similar experience in high school. I was lazy. I fought against any kind of work. I argued with my parents until they threatened to take away my prized stereo (every angsty teenager's refuge in high school). Determined to prove that homework didn't matter, I didn't cave, and my parents took the stereo away! The point is, early on in her life, Meghan saw the value of working hard for something without an immediate payoff. I knew that I wouldn't get in trouble the next day at school if I didn't do my homework, so I didn't do it. I didn't see that developing a strong work ethic and an ability to do things well, even if you find them useless or tedious, will pay off much later. Now, I realize that the sense of accomplishment you receive from achieving a long-term goal gives you confidence; confidence to try something further from your comfort zone, but with a bigger payoff. That’s why Meghan worked so hard when she was alive, and why I work hard now.

In the past two and a half years I have done ten things on Meghan's list that I never would have previously dreamed of, and some additional goals of my own. After college, I NEVER wanted to go back to school. I didn't want to do the work, so after the first degree, I checked that box on the “list of things you're supposed to do” and moved on. But I learned something along the way, especially through my travels. I love learning about human communication.  And I want to learn more. Through exploring Meghan's PhD goal, I figured out what I want to study. I've worked for and received a second bachelor's degree in Linguistics in two semesters (my first bachelor’s degree took more than five years).

As for the half-marathon, I walked (I would've run, but I hated running,) quickly in the opposite direction any time anyone mentioned running. Meghan always wanted to complete a half marathon and often made me go running with her at her family’s cottage every summer. So, it was really meaningful for me to tackle this goal right away. But as I’m learning with the road to PhD, training for a race is about consistently showing up, day after day, month after month. I trained throughout spring 2011 in order to run the 13.1 miles on Meghan’s birthday (July) at her family's cottage. Let me tell you, 13.1 miles (21.1 km for everyone else in the world that uses a logical counting system) is a long way to go by foot. But I did it. And I didn't stop. Now, I love running; I love the high I get from finishing a run, the clarity that comes on a long run, and I love how my body feels traveling long distances without any help. After Meghan's half marathon I went on to run a full marathon (26.2 miles/ 42.2km) in October 2011. For myself. It remains one of the best things I’ve ever done.

I am still working hard for Meghan's goals but also working hard for my own. One of mine is to stay ahead of my age in countries visited: I'm 31 and currently at 32 countries, with another planned for the end of the year. As I go about achieving Meghan’s goals, I definitely insert things I want to do, things I care about. Meghan would want me to pursue my interests. The point is to keep working hard. Don't seek immediate payoff, but when the payoff does come, aim higher and start all over again.

5 comments:

Rachelp said...

What wise words! Thank you for being a model of perserverance!

Islam Elwakil said...

Your story is all over the Facebook thats how we knew about it in Egypt...god bless you Adam...Hope to see you in Egypt..Cheers ;)

kim said...

Hey Adam,
I am a friend of meghan from highschool and currently live in Ottawa. If you haven't skated on the canal yet, you have a place to stay when you come here.
kimberlyworsley@gmail.com
PS. Getting a PhD isn't as hard as everyone says it is. You were smart enough to marry Meghan, so I know you can do it.

Ashley Hope said...

I discovered both of your stories just yesterday. Meghan seems like a genuinely amazing person, and I believe she would be so proud of you and the path you are on. I'll be following and commenting from here on out. I hope her spirit stays with you and continues to give you hope and strength. Good luck on this exciting and scary journey. God Bless you.
-Ashley

Anonymous said...

Just came across your story online, very inspirational. At present, it has helped me feel a little better equipped to relate to what my mum went through during her breast cancer treatments. Reading Meghans words has given me insight not only into her personal strength and character, to share her story of living through cancer, but the strength my mum had in dealing with her treatments. She passed away in July 2011 and the grief I feel is still so weird. Thank you for sharing and keeping your story recorded for the world to read and share with you. It has helped me to know that you can honour the spirit of a loved one, in an amazing way, and use your life in a way that is deeply meaningful and real. I wish you all the best in achieving these goals,and I'm very grateful to have learned of yours and Meghans story.

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